Would/could u love some1 who has a disfigurement?

If so what are you limits, I’m curious for the opinions people who consider them selves to be beautiful in the supermodel sense (and yes I know every one is beautiful and its all skin deep and all that stuff so don’t start ranting at me).


I want to know could you in you heart of hearts say you would?


What if they had skin with some sort of disease (not contagious) would you date them or if were severely disfigured. I want honest answers.I believe I could but I guess you cant know for sure until your in that situation.

Would/could u love some1 who has a disfigurement?
I am glad you asked such a good question.I have suffered with the skin condition psoriasis for over 30 yrs now,all over my body,and i hav'nt had a relationship in the past 16 yrs when it started to get worse.It's because i would not expect any woman to go to bed with me in this condition-it just would'nt be fair so therefor no relationship,as easy as that.Its not easy-but its something i have learned to live with,on the other hand if it was the other way around it would'nt bother me,as i think its the person that love is based on.i dont know, but i do know i could have done without this annoying damn condition-as any sufferer will tell you!Good Q.and good answers.thank you.
Reply:honestly i would need to be in the situation which i am not. i would tend to say no but then again you cant help fallen and loving someone can you, no matter what they look like so i dont know.....if i loved them and their personality thats all that counts to me not what they look like.
Reply:To be completely honest, I don't think I could date someone who had a serious disfigurement. This doesn't mean I couldn't love someone like that though. It's not as though I'm totally conceited, but I think I would always feel as though I'm better than them in a purely skin deep level.
Reply:I don't consider myself supermodel beautiful so I may have to recuse myself... but here goes.


I fell in love a long time ago with a severely disfigured man,


He was a quadriplegic, had been in a terrible accident, which left him burn scarred over 60% of his body. He had lost an eye, and one of his hands.


And even though our romance didn't last I would say it was one of my more significant loves.


So I'd say, disfigurement or disability would not be a hindrance for me.
Reply:you said it yourself: you cant really know until you're in that situation. i say that love comes in many forms and unconditional love is... well... unconditional.





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my new neighbors have 2 young boys together. the father recently contracted Lyme's disease... he can barely walk and his nervous system is messed up so his speech is slowed and hard to understand. the wife has stood by him through thick and thin.
Reply:if i got to know the person instead of focusing on their disfigurement then yes.





if i was strong enough to deal with other peoples reactions and comments then yes





if i was able let the other person know that i was with them out of love and not pity or guilt then yes





I'm not sure if i could actually do these things as i am not in the position but hopefully i am not the kind of person who judges a person on what they look like, but on the content of their character
Reply:It would probably be hard for me to begin a relationship with some one who was disfigured but I wouldnt say impossible since it has never been something that I have had to face. But if something happened to someone that I already loved it might bring a little bit of a problem but if I really love the person then my love for that person shouldnt change since I should be in love with the person and not the shell that they are in.


We look to much at the outside and not the inside and it really is pretty stupid. Its like buying a house that looks beautiful and not checking if it is full of termites when you could of bought a house that doesnt look all that hot but will last forever. Its hard tho to do. another thing that might stop me is the fact that if I were to fall in love with someone who had been born with thier problem and the time came we were to want to have children this problem could pass on to the children and that is not fair for the child. It is sad though because everyone should be able to have the experience of being loved and wanted and so many go through life never knowing what that is. Its a hard call to make. I can only say that I hope my love for the one that I am with is strong enough to not change if something were to happen.
Reply:my boyfriends cousin has!
Reply:Thats quite a hard question, whatever they look like you have to be attracted to them in some way. I may not be attracted to a person with a serious disfigurement straight away, but after getting to know them, i might be, it would depend on the person
Reply:Good question. I saw a guy in the Sunday Times magazine returned from Iraq to America, his face was melted off by IEDs and he was having a wedding with his childhood girlfriend, who in white looked very fresh.





Now this guy had no ears or lips and his face was flat and burnt off. I was thinking as I read it if he should have allowed her to "opt out", as it were. I would certainly have offered her an opt out. It was a sad read.
Reply:I love you, don't I?....Big nose.
Reply:well i love my husband an awful lot, i really hope i could love him with a disese or if he is disfured i cant really say but i do know god loves you no matter what you look like no matter where youve been or what youve done because he loves you unconditionally
Reply:This is a great question. I don't particularly call myself "handsome" (definitely not beautiful; I'm a man), and I am very divided when I think of an answer for this.


I think that it would depend on the disfigurement, but today's society is extremely dependant on attractiveness, so much so that Brittany Spears has shaved her head for (what most think is) beauty and attractiveness in today's society. (I personally don't think so, but, each to his own.)


I think that if one truly loves another, then the features of that person would undergo crystallisation (see below), and if I could see the beauty in the person (both physically and "on the inside"), then the disfigurement would undergo (I hope I'm using this phrase correctly) crystallisation. But, as you say, it's hard to imagine and it would depend on the degree of disfigurement.


Also, a girl whom I really like, to others, has a rather bad acne problem. I, however, have seen past that due to, yes, it's crystallisation again! To be completely honest with you, I think that my attraction to this girl is due to looking past the "problem", which I now find rather attractive, strangely enough, and seeing the actual beauty of the person without the disfigurement.
Reply:My boyfriend has big ears, he's bald, has about five poc marks on his face, has a lazy eye and quite crooked teeth!! He walks funny too.I consider him to be a 2/10 on the handsomeness scale if there is one! I myself am about an 8 and I met him online and fell for hisWONDERFUL personality. After getting over the original embarrassment of his looks, I was finally able to walk down the street with him, instead of hiding him from all my friends! I met him on line, playing a game ,so was drawn to his personality ,not his looks! Never thouht it was possible, but yes, BEAUTY HAS FALLEN FOR THE BEAST, and now he seems like the handsomest man in the world , cos I am in love!!!!!!!ps we live together now and everything ! Just to further explain, my boyfriend looks like the type of guy who if he came up to me at bar and offered me a drink I would tell him to FFFF OFFF!!!!!!
Reply:i have been with my woman for five years...


to be honest if she went out one day...lost her arms, legs hell everything and was left with only her torso i would still love protect and defend her...


i would never give up on anyone i loved though i would not want them to be burdened with me..i personally would rather die...


i am a giver not a taker....


i don't think i have a limit to be honest...i would adapt and move on and keep fighting....
Reply:Thats a question for sure, I think the circumstances would need to be there first. If you fancy someone physically, you ask them out and go from there, now in order to fall for someone with some kind of disfigurement, i think you would need to know, or get to know that person, then, when you had built a respect for what that person stands for and decide they have a respect for you, then you could become closer. I think it would always take a long time to connect, rather than the eyes meeting across a crowded room syndrome.
Reply:YES I WOULD,ITS THE PERSON THAT COUNTS.
Reply:it's a question we should ask our self's Before you commit your self to that person my partner has thyroid were the body makes water and it's sad because there;s a passionate loving woman who when smiling it has the affect of the sun warm and caring i care for her and she is like no other woman iv ever known but i cant get my head round it she never chose, and it's put a full stop in the bedroom I'm moving out but she's the best friend i could ever ask for,
Reply:It depends on how bad it was and if it was their face.


If someone was a midget, a giant, had a missing limb(s), or some other basic thing like that of course it would not matter. If they looked like Joseph Merrick or Grace McDaniels then it would be an issue at first, I could learn to love them as a person and eventually fall in love with their personalty but I could not instantly be seduced by someone who was had gross facial disfigurement.


I have though about this sort of thing a lot over the years, I am fascinated by deformity and disfigurement.


I would recommend the film "Freaks" by Todd Browning - it is about a beautiful woman who marries a freak show midget and tries to poison him to get his fortune. It is a brilliant film and features real deformed people as actors so is very honest about how deformity works.
Reply:Obviously I couldn't say 100% as I would have to experience the situation but my stance on people has always been and always will be personality first and foremost so there is at least a 50% chance I would in all honesty.





Hope this helps :)
Reply:some people might not even notice the disfigurement, the person might have a nice personality caring nature that shines through glad to say no everyone goes for looks
Reply:i always say its the personality that counts most ,not the looks ,and the right chemistry between people to have a loving relationship together, my partner is no oil painting but is kind ,loving ,funny , loyal and yes you can have a real good row with him when you fancy !!!
Reply:if it were a scar on the face or something small, i could but someone with a serious disfigurement would be hard for me to say yes to
Reply:Yes and No to this one. I think I could love a woman who was disfigured for what she was, not what she looked like. But these days it's all on looks...
Reply:In all honesty i cannot say how i'd be as it hasnt happened that i've met and fallen in love with a severly disfigured person. But if i was already with someone i loved, and if something happened that left them disfigured then yes i would still love them and stay.
Reply:As has been said... I would need to be in the situation... which I'm not, but I see no reason to think that I wouldn't be abl;e to... I do have friends who have disfigurements and other problems and i love them as friends and it makes no difference to our friendship that they have them...
Reply:it is one of the hardest questions no doubt.personally i think if you knew the person b4 hand this wouldn't be such a hard answer .
Reply:Believe me there are worse things than disfigurements.


I have been attracted a couple of time to men with disabilities; since I'm married already it was obviously a non-starter but if I'd been single then who knows. When I was younger date people who have mental health problems a couple of times; if you like someone then what does their appearance matter?
Reply:well i will really be very honest and strait no diplomatic answers or tell stories etc.





i know what is in yr mind..





if his disfigurement could be treated and recover to be a normal person and not to be contagious so i can tell yes yes be with him coz i feel that to LOVE him.. but if u felt that your are feeling sorry for him and want to make him in a better feeling about him self so you are driven..yes always think with your mind not your Harte and feelings. coz hart and feeling comes next!!!
Reply:yes i think beauty is often in the eye of the beholder.


i think many people can and do love someone with a disfigurement.
Reply:Everyone will react differently given different circumstances. I believe that if someone I loved (wife or family) had some form of disfigurement.


it would make my love even stronger. I could never see them hurt especially by me.

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